Swinger Movement
What is Swinging?
Swinger is the word used worldwide to define a sexual behavior among couples and married couples. It represents a different morality and a lifestyle that entails the end of infidelity. (Liberal couple)
- A free way of life, in which love and sex do not necessarily go hand in hand.
- A sexual relationship characterized by openness, respect, and sincerity, where couples strive to fully satisfy their fantasies.
- A way to end lies, deceit, jealousy and selfishness.
- Within the swinger community, there is no room for secrets, which leads to greater trust and understanding within the couple.
Many traditional couples criticize this lifestyle, labeling those who practice it as perverts or sex addicts.
Perhaps they find it easier to deceive their partner and have affairs behind their back, lying day after day, rather than acknowledging that their sex life has become monotonous and that they need to find solutions together, not separately.
Swingers believe it’s best to be upfront and not deceive your partner, who should be the person you love most and with whom you have developed the most trust.
When the pursuit of personal pleasure is based on the pursuit of the pleasure of the loved one, there is no room for jealousy, because jealousy is the clearest symptom of a selfishness that is incapable of thinking about the well-being of the one who claims to love; that is, self-love is much greater than love for the other person.
Who is a swinger?
A swinger is someone who enjoys their freedom to the fullest, exercising it with total respect for the integrity of others, starting with their own partner.
Who frequents this environment?
The average liberal couple tends to be very open-minded and not very conservative. They are very ordinary people, and you find all sorts, from high-level politicians to university students, married, single, divorced, or widowed individuals; the socio-cultural level of the people is generally high.
You can find all kinds of personalities: smokers, non-smokers, athletes, music and food lovers, tall, thin, short, fat, young and mature, handsome and not so handsome, athletic, intellectual, in short, the whole range of possibilities to contact.
Types of swinging
The following variations can occur between two couples:
- Soft-swinging. This is a way of sharing sexual experiences without wife-swapping. In its simplest form, both couples make love in the same room, in full view of others, but without touching the other couple. Depending on what is agreed upon with the other couple, they may exchange some kind of caresses or engage in erotic games.
- Open-Swinging. In this variation, there is open partner swapping, that is, in the same room, each couple swaps partners, in full view of four or more people.
- Closet swinging. This variation involves secret partner swapping, meaning NOT in the same bedroom. Each couple swaps partners in separate apartments without seeing what the others are doing. This method is advisable when there is a mild jealousy issue or when one of the partners feels uncomfortable observing their spouse with another person.
- Trios. In this variation, a couple receives a man or a woman as a guest.
On the first date, these variations should be discussed, and the possible ways to enjoy the group should be clearly defined, taking into account everyone’s tastes and limitations.
A crucial and highly civil rule among swingers is: “NO MEANS NO.” This simply means that the tastes and boundaries of the participants must be respected politely and without exception. If someone says they don’t like something, this must be respected without pressure or mistreatment.
This is how to ensure that (especially) the women can enjoy their experience without fear of unwanted attention. From then on, it’s a matter of common sense and basic human decency. Group sex is a wonderful experience if it can be enjoyed with respect and love for others.
Swinger behavior
- Be courteous. We all want to be treated as people, not objects, and courtesy is appreciated by everyone. Treat everyone with consideration, sensitivity, and discretion. Remember the golden rule: treat others as you would like to be treated.
- Be friendly. Even if you’re not interested in having a sexual experience with another couple or person, respect their feelings. Respect is the fundamental rule in this environment.
- Answer all messages. Don’t leave any messages unanswered, even if it’s just to say “No, thanks”; that way you prevent someone from wasting their time and yours.
- If you decide to go on a date, take the necessary precautions. We recommend bringing and using latex condoms, and it’s also a good idea for your partner to include tissues and other personal items (comb, lipstick, mouthwash, etc.) in her toiletry bag.
- Don’t be insistent. If someone—including your wife—says NO, it’s not valid to ask WHY, because after all, being liberal means freedom of opinion and action for both you and others.
- Avoid any situation that might make your partner perceive it as forced; only accept what is fun for everyone.
- When you meet a new partner, if you like them, it’s a good idea to let them know, as long as you don’t do it in a rushed and pressured way; give them the opportunity to say “YES” or “NO” or “Not today, but how about next Tuesday?”
- After spending an evening with a couple, if they enjoyed it, it’s good to let them know, and offer them a way to get in touch again, if they wish.
A successful liberal life
Communicate! Talk to your partner, chat with other couples, and be attentive and courteous. Liberal couples in Madrid, swapping, threesomes, amateur kinks
According to recent studies, most of the liberal couples interviewed reported a significant improvement in their relationship after adopting this lifestyle, both sexually and emotionally.
Their sexual relations, even after years of marriage, occur about four times a week, and many describe their personal relationship as warmer and more intimate, having become “partners in crime” as well as spouses. This is natural, because if a couple can openly discuss their sex life, it’s logical that they can discuss—and resolve—any other problem in their daily life together.
But it’s important to emphasize the following: If a couple already has serious problems, adopting this lifestyle is not the solution. A liberal lifestyle is for couples who love each other, accept each other as they are, and are considerate of one another.
Singles. How to behave?
Single men often tend to push situations or blatantly court the lady without considering their partner’s feelings.
Many men fantasize about watching their wives make love with other men, but this involves a mixture of excitement and jealousy.
If you’re single and want to offer yourself for these threesomes, keep in mind that you’re a guest and must respect your hosts’ rules, whatever they may be. It’s the only way you’ll not only enjoy yourself, but also, by giving pleasure to others, end up being invited to more experiences of this kind.
Now, if you are a woman and relatively young, you fall into what we call “every man’s dream”: making love with two women at the same time.
It’s becoming increasingly common for more women—both married and single—to have bisexual interests, which also opens up another highly stimulating avenue for mutually satisfying encounters. Once again, an open, honest, and frank attitude paves the way.
Risks within the environment
- – Sexually transmitted diseases, although it is something known to everyone, it is worth remembering that you should never have sex without condoms, no matter how much trust you have with your partner.
– Potentially dishonest or malicious individuals. Some people, for example, present themselves as an open relationship, but when the date arrives, it “magically” turns out their wife couldn’t make it or had no one to leave the children with. And then there are the conspirators, single men and women who pretend to be a couple or married to entice inexperienced people. Therefore, we insist, it’s advisable to meet in a public place with no formal commitment for anyone. In swingers’ clubs, you have the advantage of having the support of the promoters to assist you at any time.
We recommend that your first date be exploratory until you’re sure the other person is real. Think carefully before giving out your phone number or home address.
Full within the swing
- My wife and I are a little overweight. Should we lose weight to fit into this market?
It wouldn’t be a bad thing, for personal health and self-esteem, but don’t let those extra pounds stop you from exploring your sexuality. It’s common for couples or single people to find it arousing and want to be with someone “curvy,” although we should tell you that slim and well-proportioned married couples are the most sought after.
The contacts.
How to place an ad?
Always tell the truth. Describe yourselves as you are and make it very clear exactly what you are looking for.
If you post an ad, a descriptive photo will increase responses. These photos don’t have to be nude or “action” shots if you don’t want them to be. Although many people think otherwise, eroticism is not the same as pornography. Suggestive swimsuits or fine lingerie are attractive to most people who might respond to your ad.
When responding to an ad, don’t send intimate photos or your phone number right away until you’re sure the person or people on the other end are real, well-intentioned, and honest. Some people just want to collect sexy photos or exchange “hot” correspondence without committing to anything in person; it’s a matter of personal preference.
The first date:
We recommend you arrange the first interview in a neutral location (a liberal-minded venue, a restaurant, or a café). This gives you the freedom to say “No, thank you” and walk away if things aren’t going well.
Agree beforehand that there is no commitment, that if in the end it is not a partner to your liking, you will simply introduce yourselves and say goodbye properly.- Good manners are very important for easing tension and making everyone feel more comfortable.
- You have to be very specific about each person’s personal characteristics to find each other without problems or confusion.
If the date goes well and everyone agrees:
- Remember, NO means NO all the time
- Speak freely about the rules of the game. Don’t let natural shyness leave unfinished business that you might later regret.
- We highly recommend using liberal establishments, hotels, or apartments rented specifically for this type of activity, rather than bringing strangers to your home. Later on, time will tell; initially, you’ll just want to share a good time in bed with your new acquaintances.
- Agree on the details: one room for everyone or one room for each couple, mandatory use of condoms, etc.